Have you ever been out to a restaurant and are happily eating your meal when someone at the next table lights up a cigarette or even worse a cigar? The smell of smoke wafting across under your nostrils and into your mouth whilst you are trying to eat is one of the most disgusting and off-putting things you can imagine. Usually, they are completely oblivious to the discomfort they are inflicting on you as well and if you ask them to put it out – well – it’s like you are the meanest person that walked the earth. I have been in this situation and they try to get everyone feeling sympathy for them. Fortunately, the laws have changed and smoking in many public buildings has been prohibited. Most restaurants are no longer permitted to allow patrons to light up their cigarettes at the meal table, they have to go outside or to designated smoking areas – in the cold – aw isn’t that a shame!! I have never lectured a person on the merits of not smoking but it speaks for itself doesn’t it? Longer life span, cleaner clothes and hair, clearer skin, more energy and respect from colleagues. Gone are the days when smoking was considered to be cool it is now just seen as an irritation and a dangerous one at that. Passive smoking can cause a high number of deaths, and although not as many as a smoker. Still substantially enough to make people want to see a difference.
People are trying to change their smoking habits, and this has to be a good thing. However, some are able to do it along and others need support. Some respond better to praise and counselling, other’s are more likely to kick the habit with negative reinforcement.
The most common thread to successful addiction cessation, such as smoking, is desire and willpower. If you really do want to stop you will. You may need a little help from something such as gum or patches, but ultimately you have to have the desire. Now so many people will jump up and down and say of course the desire is present, I am at risk of getting cancer. But, my friend, this is not always enough to deter someone, the mind invents little a reasons, stories, answers, call them what you will but excuses for not smoking are common. You may think you have the desire to stop, but if going for a cigarette means that this is the only way you can get a break from a negative environment, then your mind will use this information to keep you smoking. Your desire has to be very strong to stop smoking without outside help or intervention, otherwise it will not work. Luckily there are a number of different programs available to help you. You just need to choose the right one for you.